Love and Marriage

Matt Miles • September 19, 2018

My wife and I have now celebrated 26 years of marriage. In pondering the definition of our marriage, is it just a legally binding union/contract and a societally recognized partnership, or a God-ordained and designed union that He has instituted? I whole-heartedly understand it to be definition #2 since that is how the Lord has described it in His Word since the beginning.

My wife and I were designed male and female, and this is the starting foundation of any marriage. In Genesis 2 we read of the man’s placement in the Garden. He is initially placed there without a helpmate (wife) and the Lord asks him to name the animals. Is this an odd request? I do not believe so if He is establishing a simple pattern. In observing and naming all the animals, the man would have noticed that everything was mated to a pair, male and female. Yet there was no one like him in all the animal kingdom he had just observed. God then made woman from a portion of man’s side while he slept. The Lord designed a female which the male needed as his helpmate. So, the Lord designated male and female as the starting point. If there were other acceptable foundations for marriage, we should see it here at the beginning of history.

When the man sees woman for the first time, he acknowledges the God-designed union that takes place in marriage. “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ because she was taken out of man.” The Lord made and placed them together. He did not leave it up to the man to find the woman; she was designed for his needs and he for her needs. They were placed together as one flesh, not two, by the Lord; this was not of their own volition, or the work of a mother and father. They set a precedent for all marriages to come in history.

The Lord is the one who ordains marriage between a man and woman for life.That’s it, there is nothing else when it comes to the definition of marriage. It is a spiritually important union for the establishment of the family. Both man and woman should acknowledge their Creator as binding them together and thus start a family where godly offspring will be raised. Then those godly offspring will also know the importance placed on marriage by the Lord, as taught by their father and mother’s example.

Theresa and I were married over 26 years ago. We exchanged rings, vows and a kiss, and then signed a marriage license, none of which actually made us married. Those are the outward (and legal) signs that we have to show for the union God designed for us when He placed us together as one for life. I love my wife because she is exactly who I needed for this life, which the Lord knew when He bound us together in marriage. That bond is stronger than any problems, trials, disappointments, failures or any other thing in life that may try to destroy what the Lord bound.  

Within the ministry of Creation Truth Foundation we will continue to boldly teach, preach and show this truth of the God-ordained union of the family. Blessings to you all!

Baby Jesus Figurine
By Matt Miles December 18, 2025
Here we are again, just a few days before Christmas. It seems the old adage, “The older you get the faster time flies,” is so true. There is not a year that passes when we look back and think, “Wow, this year took forever!” History is passing by and we look forward to the new year as we continue to focus on our eternal destiny. Our theme this year has been, HISTORY & DESTINY. Christmas is a great time to reflect on these two realities. Everyone has “Christmas history”, as I term it - those moments from past Christmases that are remembered year after year. Maybe it’s a great family gathering or Christmas activity that has become a beloved tradition. All of those moments are formed by previous years’ experiences. Sometimes this season can be tough, as we may have that memory of a loved one that has passed or other difficulties that we may be facing. Christmas history is always impactful, be it good or bad. This makes me reflect on the first Christmas. For Mary and Joseph, there was no previous history like that moment, per se. Yet, the history of the prior four thousand years had been preparing for the manger, the moment in history that our Savior would be born and begin Christmas history for all of us. Whether it is acknowledged or not, without Jesus’ birth in history, none of this season happens. Each and every Christmas our desire is to make those “Christmas history” memories for our family. Our desire is to impact the future of our family, our destiny. Often our efforts fall short or are interrupted by things out of our control. In those moments, so much stress can come from our efforts not going as planned. Sometimes it ends up ruining the whole season, especially if our focus has not been on the simple fact that He was born to bring peace, not stress. Let us not forget that it didn’t start the way Mary and Joseph had planned, with no room in the inn. But the Lord provided a place for them to rest and deliver the baby. Immanuel, God with us, is the bell ringing for all eternity that started that first Christmas. Our eternal destiny hinges on whether we acknowledge who He is everyday, not just in this season. Yet, this season is most assuredly a great time to emphasize His gift of life for all eternity. Our Creator became as one of His image bearers in that stable under imperfect conditions. He joined HISTORY and DESTINY that moment in time. The years of history that prepared the world for the child born that first Christmas would give us hope for all eternity. Jesus is the marker for all history. Because of that moment in time, our life can have peace for eternity through Him. May we all focus on the culmination of HISTORY & DESTINY during our family Christmas celebrations this year. Our history is written but our destiny is hope in Jesus Christ, our Creator and Savior. Blessings this season to you and your family from all of us here at Creation Truth Foundation!
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