Love and Marriage

Matt Miles • September 19, 2018

My wife and I have now celebrated 26 years of marriage. In pondering the definition of our marriage, is it just a legally binding union/contract and a societally recognized partnership, or a God-ordained and designed union that He has instituted? I whole-heartedly understand it to be definition #2 since that is how the Lord has described it in His Word since the beginning.

My wife and I were designed male and female, and this is the starting foundation of any marriage. In Genesis 2 we read of the man’s placement in the Garden. He is initially placed there without a helpmate (wife) and the Lord asks him to name the animals. Is this an odd request? I do not believe so if He is establishing a simple pattern. In observing and naming all the animals, the man would have noticed that everything was mated to a pair, male and female. Yet there was no one like him in all the animal kingdom he had just observed. God then made woman from a portion of man’s side while he slept. The Lord designed a female which the male needed as his helpmate. So, the Lord designated male and female as the starting point. If there were other acceptable foundations for marriage, we should see it here at the beginning of history.

When the man sees woman for the first time, he acknowledges the God-designed union that takes place in marriage. “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ because she was taken out of man.” The Lord made and placed them together. He did not leave it up to the man to find the woman; she was designed for his needs and he for her needs. They were placed together as one flesh, not two, by the Lord; this was not of their own volition, or the work of a mother and father. They set a precedent for all marriages to come in history.

The Lord is the one who ordains marriage between a man and woman for life.That’s it, there is nothing else when it comes to the definition of marriage. It is a spiritually important union for the establishment of the family. Both man and woman should acknowledge their Creator as binding them together and thus start a family where godly offspring will be raised. Then those godly offspring will also know the importance placed on marriage by the Lord, as taught by their father and mother’s example.

Theresa and I were married over 26 years ago. We exchanged rings, vows and a kiss, and then signed a marriage license, none of which actually made us married. Those are the outward (and legal) signs that we have to show for the union God designed for us when He placed us together as one for life. I love my wife because she is exactly who I needed for this life, which the Lord knew when He bound us together in marriage. That bond is stronger than any problems, trials, disappointments, failures or any other thing in life that may try to destroy what the Lord bound.  

Within the ministry of Creation Truth Foundation we will continue to boldly teach, preach and show this truth of the God-ordained union of the family. Blessings to you all!

Hand in sand image
By Matt Miles April 19, 2026
In Genesis 12 the Lord calls Abraham (Abram) to be the father of a great nation. This all happened to Abraham at 75 years old. Some might say that is too late in life to start something new, especially a calling of that magnitude. Yet that was not the overwhelming part to me; that would come in verse 7 when the Lord said the land would be his offspring’s. Wait, what?! The Lord had a plan and His Providence would guide Abraham, even when Abraham did not have offspring and did not wait on the Lord. I have to wonder how I would have reacted to such a call and covenant. As we know from Psalms, the Lord guides and sustains all by His Providence for His name sake, which we are focusing on this year. But does Providence act on our timing? When God called Abraham, he had no children. Yet the promise given was that his offspring would be a great nation in a land saved for them. What we know now is that Abraham wouldn’t have his son Isaac until he was 100 years old, a full 25 years after the covenant was made. Most of the time we expect the Lord’s hand working in our life to be immediate, but that is not always the case. In some cases it might take years to experience the Providence coming to fruition. Remember Genesis 21:2 states Isaac’s birth was at the “appointed time.” This understanding should give us peace as we rely on Providence and, at times, are called to patience. Providence was again on display for us to understand that even in obedient sacrifice He will be glorified, as Abraham was asked to sacrifice his son, Isaac, who was inherently tied to the covenant of the Lord. Abraham was faithful in all aspects, even when most of us might say “no way” to that sacrifice to the Lord. Yet at the right time, through faithfulness in Abraham’s obedience, there was Providence providing behind him in the ram. Our faithful obedience sometimes feels like a tough ask from the Lord, but rest assured He is there, ready to lift up His name through us. Providence continued through time, 100 years later, after Isaac had his sons, Jacob and Esau. Then Jacob was blessed by the Lord with 12 sons, one of which was Joseph, who was sold to Egypt by his brothers. You probably recall all the ups and downs of Joseph’s life, yet he was faithful to the Lord throughout them all. Remember, there was a covenant at stake. The Lord, through His Providence, made sure he had Joseph where He needed him to save the great nation of Israel from famine. This Providence secured the covenant line to continue to Christ. Many times throughout history Providence has guided and protected His covenant, and now you and I can be blessed with inclusion in His great nation through Christ. If it had not been so, then we literally have no assurance of our salvation. Praise be to our Lord Jesus Christ that His Providence is faithful for all eternity, so we may know peace and have confidence in the promised destiny. Our ministry here at CTF has always emphasized the importance of Genesis 12, Abraham’s covenant. We share there is no difference in importance of Genesis 1-11 over chapter 12 and through the entirety of the Bible. The whole Bible is inspired to be trustworthy and to show His Providence throughout history for His name’s sake and also for our salvation. Blessings.
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