2020 Focused: Marriage

Ryan Cox • March 20, 2020

“40 to 50 percent of married couples in the United States divorce.” ~ American Psychological Association [1]

“Why are divorce rates higher in religiously conservative ‘red’ states?” ~ Council on Contemporary Families [2]

“Conservative Christians Divorce More Than Other Groups” ~ The Huffington Post [3]

“[C]ommunities with large concentrations of conservative Protestants actually produce higher divorce rates than others.” ~ American Journal of Sociology [4]

My wife and I celebrate 10 years of marriage this March. We are so glad we never let any of these types of reports influence us, except to reaffirm our commitment to our marital covenant.

The reason none of these reports should influence anyone is because they are all a LIE!

The world, and maybe even the church, has told couples for years that they have a 50/50 chance of staying married, if they want to risk it.

How encouraging.

Time after time after time, young people have been told these terrible, discouraging things about marriage, and all along they have been nothing but falsehoods.

A few years ago, researchers Shaunti Feldhahn and Tally Whitehead published the results of years of study in a book entitled The Good News About Marriage: Debunking Discouraging Myths About Marriage and Divorce. (shaunti.com/tb-books/good-news-marriage/)

Providing detailed research with numerous studies and sources, here are some of their conclusions: [5]

The actual divorce rate has never been close to 50%.
Currently, 72% of married people are still married to their first spouse!
Of the remaining 28%, many ended by death, not divorce.
The actual divorce rate for first marriages is closer to 20% and about 31% for all marriages (first and subsequent).
Surveys show that 80% of marriages are “happy”, with many showing 91%-97% rated as “happy”.
93% of married couples say that if they had it to do over, they would marry their spouse again.
Couples who attend church services weekly see their chances of divorce drop 27%.
Couples who pray together see their chances of divorce drop by 50%!
For remarriages, 65% of women in their second marriage are still married to their spouse. Of the 35% who are not still married to their second spouse, a significant percentage of those marriages ended in death.
In 82% of struggling marriages, one partner is unaware of his or her spouse’s unhappiness. This is why for those who stick to it, after 5 years they rate their marriage as “very happy”.

Sadly, though, our culture has done such a good job attacking marriage that now 74% of “first unions” are those who are “living together” out of wedlock (it was 58% in the 1990s). [6] It should be noted that 85% of couples living together eventually get married by age 46, usually because of child custody, tax benefits, etc. The end result, however, does not excuse the sin (Hebrews 13:4).

The point, though, is that there is incredibly good news with which to encourage couples who are contemplating marriage! The church should be about promoting the wonders and benefits of marriage! After all, it was designed and established by God Himself (Gen. 2:18-25, Matthew 19:4-6).

[1] http://www.apa.org/topics/divorce/

[2] https://contemporaryfamilies.org/impact-of-conservative-protestantism-on-regional-divorce-rates/

[3] http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/01/24/conservative-christian-divorce_n_813137.html

[4] https://ifstudies.org/blog/findings-on-red-and-blue-divorce-are-not-exactly-black-and-white/

[5] Shaunti Feldhahn with Tally Whitehead, The Good News About Marriage , Multnomah Books, 2014, pp. 130-133.

[6] Ibid., pp. 139-140.

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October 2, 2025

Flooded Marine Reptile

By Matt Miles • October 2, 2025

The Flood during Noah’s day was a devastating judgement against the sin and wickedness of the time. Most people focus on what the Lord did as He saved the eight people and animals on the Ark. Yet while they were being saved, the Flood destroyed the earth and left behind some remarkable things. Geology around the globe shows water burial of plants and animals. Many of the animal remains show signs of drowning and then burial. One particular reptile that shows this is the Ichthyosaurus. From what we can understand, water was her home for everything in life, even giving birth to live young. This well designed creature may even help us trust the Word of God when it comes to the history of the Flood. In our Mobile Museum of Earth History we exhibit a research replica of an ichthyosaur called Stenopterygius quadriscissus . She is from Holzmaden, Germany and is one example of hundreds that have been found in the area. The reason we can so confidently state this fossil is a “her,” when we rarely know for sure about fossil animals, is because she is pregnant. She has three babies present with her remains: one under her tail, one in or near the birth canal, and one still inside. Our fossil is in situ, which means the fossil remains in the rock matrix it was buried in. So, the presence of momma and babies are how they were buried and not articulated in some manner after excavation. This is important to show the rapid, watery burial that must have taken place to lock this scene in the fossil record. The Flood trapped organisms all over the world in different life positions. Sometimes the fossils left behind have shown eating, hunting, sleeping, swimming, nesting, or drowning. When it comes to ichthyosaurs around the planet, there is a significant number of females that seem to be pregnant. They have been found in the fossil record on at least four continents. A fair assumption would be that Ichthyosaurs had a certain time of year they mated and gave birth to young, much like sea turtles today that nest from late spring to late fall depending on the region around the world. So it should come as no surprise that we find pregnant ichthyosaurs all around the world as the Flood lasted an entire year. It would have buried the females that were pregnant near their location of habitat. Evolutionists maintain that ichthyosaurs lived tens to hundreds of million years ago and each of the mothers found in the fossil record just died while giving birth. This is difficult to support in a millions magnitude time scale. That would mean every time a disaster happened, millions of years apart, the right conditions existed to quickly bury ichthyosaurs that just so happened to be pregnant. It just might take some “faith” to trust that “miracle” would happen over and over again through eons of time. Or you can have faith that the Word of God’s history is correct with a judgement of man’s sin bringing global devastation through the Flood during Noah’s 600th year of life. The Word of God is trustworthy, with even the fossil record showing us glimpses of historical evidence in support of our faith. I’m so thankful we don’t need blind faith to trust our salvation! Blessings.

Our God Whom We Serve Is Able

By Ryan Cox • October 2, 2025

14 Nebuchadnezzar spoke, saying to them, “Is it true, Shadrach, Meshach, and Abed-Nego, that you do not serve my gods or worship the gold image which I have set up? 15 …if you do not worship, you shall be cast immediately into the midst of a burning fiery furnace. And who is the god who will deliver you from my hands?” 16 Shadrach, Meshach, and Abed-Nego answered and said to the king, “O Nebuchadnezzar, we have no need to answer you in this matter. 17 If that is the case, our God whom we serve is able to deliver us from the burning fiery furnace, and He will deliver us from your hand, O king. 18 But if He does not, let it be known to you, O king, that we do not serve your gods, nor will we worship the gold image which you have set up.” Daniel 3:14-18 In the 6th century BC, three young men stood up for their faith in the one true God, for which someone attempted to kill them. Today, in the 21st century AD, one young man was gunned down for his faith in the one true God. And sadly, Charlie Kirk is not the only one. According to The Esther Project, martyrdom for the cause of Christ is commonplace around the world ( theestherproject.com/statistics ). On average: 322 Christians are killed monthly. 214 churches or Christian properties are destroyed monthly. 772 forms of violence (beatings, kidnappings, etc.) against Christians are committed monthly. 100,000 to 160,000 Christians are killed annually in the 21st century. 1.093 million Christians were martyred between 2000 and 2010. And more than 70 million Christians are believed to have been martyred since the 1st century, with more than half killed in the 20th century alone under communist and fascist governments. And how should Christians respond? Peter wrote, “ if anyone suffers as a Christian, let him not be ashamed, but glorify God in this name ” (I Peter 4:16). Jesus took this a step further; He told us, “ …love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you ” (Matthew 5:44). Now, as Shawn Grant, minister at Kissimmee Christian Church, FL, preached on the Sunday following the assassination, th at may not be what you want to hear right now, but that is what Jesus has told us we must do. Why? So the world will see the difference Jesus makes! The night of and the days after the assassination, businesses did not have to board up their stores. Police and soldiers did not have to be deployed. There were no riots, no property damages, no police spat upon – only tears, prayers, and a witness to the world that Jesus is the answer. So noticeable is this to the world, there were more international press requests for the Charlie Kirk memorial service than are requested for Super Bowls. Within seven days of his death, Kirk’s ministry Turning Point USA had received over 54,000 campus chapter requests. And most importantly, scores of videos of young people considering or even deciding to give their lives to Jesus have been posted to social media platforms.